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Have You Noticed the 2-Minute Relationships in Your Life?

A few days ago, I had this tune in my head.

I just couldn’t remember the song though. You know that feeling when you know that you know the lyrics of a song, but all that comes to your head is the tune? So annoying!

Anyway, so I was constantly humming this tune, hoping that if I did it for long enough, I would remember the song.

And I got up on the bus while doing it, and asked the driver for a ticket.

His first comment was, “I love that one!”

“Raindrops keep falling on my head, right? From Forrest Gump?”

Of course! So right! That was soooo it!

So I told him about my struggle with the tune for a few days, and thanks for telling me of the song. He told me how he has fond memories of that song, because he listened to it a lot when he was with his college sweetheart. So I asked him where he went to college, etc., etc.

The whole conversation was less than 2 minutes, but I went to take my seat on the bus with a big smile on my face, feeling light, happy. Just, good. And as I moved away from him, I heard him humming the tune again. He said he would go home and listen to the song that day.

Such a short, sweet, happy encounter!

And we have these little moments every day. At the supermarket, in any queue, with any service attendant, with other patients at the doctor’s office, with the delivery guy, the stranger on the street you ask for directions (when you have no GPS).

I am generally a social person, I like chatting, so probably I have these more than others. But even when I am quiet, strangers sometimes strike up conversations with me about some small things, and we have those 2 minutes of little chats, about each other’s lives, or what is happening around us.

Those 2 minutes of bonding, where nothing else matters except that we are human. Not our backgrounds, our troubles, our education, our social lives, our careers and professions, nothing. Only that we speak a common language.

And sometimes, not even that. Some of the best ‘stranger’ moments that have made me smile are when talking to someone who doesn’t speak my language, but after some hand gestures and smiles, we somehow understood each other.

When I was a child, I often traveled on trains with my family, mostly for overnight journeys. And such journeys in India were times for total strangers to connect quite intimately! By the time we disembarked, my mother and the mother from the stranger family, would have exchanged stories about everything in their family: their husbands, their daily struggles, their kids, the future of their kids, their relatives and their relative’s stories…whew!

In today’s world, that would just seem abnormal, but in those days, it was quite natural. We would share our food, the kids would become friends, the adults would chat. And then usually, after we said goodbye, we would never see each other again. But that is how many people got to know so much about the world.

Today, we take short flights, and usually watch movies, work on our laptops, and read own books. Interactivity is low. Human connections everyday, are at a bare minimum.

Even for directions, we look at our GPS, and not ask people. We really talk to strangers in parties, or go to special networking events.

But we don’t have to do that. Every day is a chance to have those 2-minute relationships that open us up to other worlds, to other people. 2 minutes that will bring a smile to our faces. Who cares if we don’t see them again? Aren’t just those few minutes enough, to make us feel a little good?

So why not celebrate that? Get more of that? Raise our heads up from our mobile phones, and have those 2 minutes of simple conversation?

My FF thought of the day: Because we always don’t need big events to make us happy, being simply our raw human selves for 2 minutes and having connections with other humans can also have some endorphin flowing. Be just your simple self for 2 minutes with someone else today. Be #PowerfullyYOU.

*FF = Full Full. The glass is not half full, it’s always full full: 1/2 with water, 1/2 with air, even though you can’t see the air. In short, there is always something good in everything.


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